Get the real scoop from Doc Love by checking out the magazine version of this article, found in Exec Digital's June issue.
Ever wonder why she doesn’t call you back after weeks of utter bliss in the bedroom? Think you handled everything perfectly – showering her with gifts, constantly complimenting her and always being at her beck and call – but in the end, she still left you? Doc Love knows the reason why.
Doc Love has interviewed more than 10,000 women over the course of 30 years, asking them what keeps them turned on, and off. He didn’t research relationships or read up on the latest dating trend, but built his system based on real-life experience – and more importantly, focused on what worked rather than what didn’t. The responses were overwhelming; almost every single woman stayed with her man who exuded areas of confidence, self-control and challenge, says Doc Love. “Ultimately, because we do the picking and they do the choosing, the power finally rests with her,” he says.
By focusing on what worked with the girl rather than what didn’t, Doc Love found a loop-hole in the dating world – and turned the male’s dating ethic around. “I know what it takes to keep her happy,” he says. Those who can attest to the power of “The System,” the name of Doc Love’s unique and sugar-coated free dating method that has been turned into a 300 page book, will never look back. The only trouble is getting them to read the darn thing, he admits.
Even with his monthly blog on AskMen.com and a soon-to-be syndicated radio show, Doc Love says “most guys won’t touch me – too much truth,” he reveals. “I created “The System” where if a guy will set his ego aside (and most won’t), what’ll happen is an improvement with women because he’ll learn to talk, and not talk, about certain things.”
Truthfully, it’s simple: women may be complicated, but they don’t want much more than a little help in the kitchen, a little less action on the first date and a lot more respect. “It’s a lot more than wine me, dine me and make me smile,” Doc Love continues. But, he says, “make her giggle, and she’ll rob banks for you.”
Doc Love’s topics are pretty straight forward when you think about it – keep things light, keep things funny, don’t talk about exes or negatives, or heavy topics. You make it through the first few steps in a natural dating process, and you’re golden. All you have to do is wait for her to make the first move; let her touch you first, he says - if she likes you, she’ll gently graze your elbow or tap you’re knee. When that happens, you’re in.
Can it really be that simple? You betcha, says Doc Love. “People have these theories about love, and most of them are garbage,” he says.
“Romantic love is conditional,” Doc Love concludes. You might love your wife, but she’s going to have certain traits that undoubtedly drive you crazy. In a world that is driven by a 50 percent divorce rate, the trick is to stay“in love” with your significant other. “Women don’t get rid of you because they love you; they get rid of you because they fell out of love with you. 90 percent of guys can get a girl to fall in love – but to keep her in love? That’s the hard part.”
Through the application of confidence, self-control and challenge, the conditional love she first felt for you is going to last. If you don’t continue to impress or keep her interested, or support and respect her, she’s going to file for divorce. As Doc Love puts it, she’s the one making the decision. It isn’t enough to just love her anymore.
